Okay, I now have it working. The data is going to the correct queue.
Just for peoples information... Cisco do indeed add the 2 bits to the CoS type of service... so, normally SIP VoIP would look like the following:
32 16 8 4 2 1
1 0 1 1 1 0 = 46
So, normally we would look for dscp 46 in ToS field, but because of the added 2 zero's we get the following:
128 64 32 16 8 4 2 1
1 0 1 1 1 0 0 0 = 184
So, when running the extended ping, make sure in the ToS field you type 184 if you are expecting dscp 101110.
Anyway, hope that helps someone